Sunday, October 22, 2017

As we get closer and closer to the end of the hoops we have to jump through(Understandable hoops I want to add) it is beginning to hit us that we will soon have our kid/kids with us forever.  Our family of 3 could become a family of 4,5 or even 6!  Neither Isaac nor I feel scared about this process but rather more determined than anything.  We do know when we get to the point we will be meeting the children we will have a much different attitude.  I know that in general is going to be awkward for everyone.

I feel so bad for these kids who constantly feel like they are required to be on their best behavior.  Who have to try to prove themselves worthy to be adopted.  I really wish I could just take them all and love them all.  I do know though that whoever comes to join our family will be perfect for us.  The missing piece of our puzzle so to speak. 

This past Tuesday we sat in front of our social worker to talk about our marriage and how things brought us here to where we are in our relationship. I have to say I could see how this topic and the questions asked could end up bringing up a lot of things you didn’t even realize was hidden in your relationship. During this process Isaac and I just realized once again after 11 years together how perfect we really are for each other and how through the years, all the hardships: Lack of work, Financial strain, Health issues, Infertility, Miscarriages, Being laid off, Job changes, Loss of loved ones....you name it. But through it all we have fallen more in love with each other. We have focused on each others strengths and making each other stronger. I was actually so proud of us and the way we were able to answer the questions in 100% honesty without fear of offending each other or making each other mad.
Going on this unknown and new adventure is going to be both scary and exciting. We are going to have our ups and our downs but we will go through it all and become even closer. I feel beyond blessed to have this man by my side.
That being said we were told today that we will begin the matching process sometime in January. Between now and then they will be writing up our home study profile: This is what the children’s social workers will read on us to give them not only their first impressions of us but also an idea into who we are and how we would match up with their kids we want to pursue. With this information they are able to have a general idea on if they are willing to let us pursue the children under their care. They try to make the profiles as accurate as possible in order to allow them to really get the full scope on who we are as a couple and How we work together as a family unit. (Hence the very delving questions)
The earliest we will most likely have our new family members in home with us will probably be sometime between February-April area(there really is no way to tell for sure). For now we will continue to cherish every minute we have as a family of 3 while excitedly awaiting the new members to come.
Thank you for following us on this journey and praying with us as our family extends and grows.

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