All the wrong things people say

With all the stress that has been taking place with the death of my brother, the hemorrhage I had with the pregnancy and just plain old being pregnant with this I have developed a list of all the things people have said to me that really they shouldn't:

1.  I just worry about you with the baby and all this stress-its been two weeks, as hard and as emotional as it has been it's not getting harder its getting easier.
2.  You gotta try and stay calm for the sake of the baby you have to think about now-Oh really?  I completely forgot I was pregnant.  Thank you for informing me I am not allowed to grieve or feel my feelings since I am already pounded through with extra hormones that make me super emotional either way.  
3. Don't tell stories of your friends who miscarried!  
4.  Don't assume it was an easy journey for the person who is pregnant

The list goes on but here is a story with the next one:

 I go to the endochrinologist today and the nurse who is checking blood preasure getting my info and such says: Oh your pregnant how exciting.  How far along are you?  I told her 9 weeks she said oh thats super early you still have a long way to go.  I told her well it took us fertility treatments to get here so I'm just so excited to be here no matter how early it is.  Oh how long where you trying for?  Almost 2 and a half years and working with the specialist since February.  She said Oh I'm not telling you this to discourage you but a friend of mine did invitro and everything looked good but then once she went in for her 14 week appointment the heart had just stopped beating.  My heart hurt so bad for her.

I just stared at her dumbfounded.....REALLY- your not telling me this to discourage me, you know I just went through fertility treatments to get where I'm at so lets go ahead and tell me how your friend miscarried even after everything looked good.  Really?

Yeah so that is what brought on this post.  I know she really was just trying to make a connection and act like she understood how emotional that can be but that was the wrong way to do it. 

So in about an hour I'll be heading out to go to my midwife appointment.  I'm not sure that it's going to entail much since I haven't had any more bleeding since our last er visit when baby was just growing away. 

I have to say since being home my morning sickness has been worse but I think part of that is the colder weather(its been snowing here the past couple days) and the amount of drainage/allergies I've been having. 

Yesterday was my first day back at work and it was actually really good to be back.  I missed the doing what I love and the distraction will be nice.  I did cry twice though, once when a client asked where I was and if everything was okay because she had appointments scheduled when I was gone and I see that in the future as well with all the clients that had to reschedule. 
Okay I think that is enough ranting for the day.